Marriage is hard. It takes a lot of work, patience and communication. But for some, it is not as simple as work, patience and communication. For some it is a matter of fighting for their life. Fighting to keep their head above water. Refusing to drown under the weight of a hardened individual.
Are you aware of the consequences a woman faces when she finally musters up the strength to leave an abusive situation? Many do not so here are a few:
- Fear of retaliation of the abuser by numerous means. These are only a few:
- Emptying of bank account
- Refusal to pay bills
- Threatening to take children away
- Left with no financial way to care for children
- Harassment from abuser
- Destroyed credit issues leaving the victim with no means to purchase a car, rent a home, open a new bank account
- Continued emotional and verbal abuse
- Created alienation of those in victims life
- Rejection by friends
- Rejection by family
- Rejection by church
These are but a few. Much is involved but be certain of this, it takes great amounts of courage and strength for one to stand and say, “I am valuable and I will not take the abuse any longer” as they leave.
It happens every day. And the majority of women taking this step are doing it without the support of their family, friends, and church family. They are alone, scared and left to fight for the welfare of their children without the proper support and resources. It is terrifying.
Add to the stress of leaving that of lack of support within our judicial system. Are you aware if you commit a crime that could carry possible jail time in the United States you are given an attorney if you cannot afford one? Are you aware that a woman who has been a stay at home mom for her children and has no financial means available after leaving an abusive situation is expected to provide for her own attorney? She is allowed to stand before a judge on her own while the abuser who has the necessary and available funds who may even have more than one attorney fights against her. Our system allows this to take place every day. Criminals are represented while innocent victims of abuse must fight on their own against those oppressors in their life.
It is so unfair and sickening. The damage being done to the children in our country because of the “rights of a parent” is absurd and disgusting. My passion is to see it changed. To do something to change it but it cannot be done alone.
Thankfully it begins with babysteps. God has given me the amazing privilege of working with an incredible ministry. A ministry that walks alongside women and their babies left stranded and who need help getting back on their feet. Supporting women crushed by years of abuse with broken wings needing to be healed by God’s love. We are a team of women who experienced the issues above in a personal way and want to be the hands and feet of Jesus to these broken women.
I accept that many will never understand the pain others suffer. I accept that unless some things happen to you personally, it’s hard to acknowledge and understand the hurt it causes to others. Sometimes we need to step back and realize people are hurting. But not only hurting, they are suffering. They need to be rescued. They need the assurance that someone cares and loves them. They need their broken wings healed. They need HOPE. Will you please visit Give Her Wings and consider supporting our April mama? Whether through prayers or financial support, we need your help. Will you help us in offering a precious mama and her babies hope today? Will you walk with us as we minister to those who need the love of Jesus poured over them?
I ask you to pray about how you can be a part of this great ministry. What simple things could you give up in order to help a mama and her babies put food on their table, electricity in their home, or even shoes on their feet?
*Would you be willing to give up one visit to Starbucks each week and donate that amount monthly?
*Would you be willing to eat out one less time each month and donate that amount?
Please visit GiveHerWings.com and read some of the precious notes from the mama’s who have already been helped through this ministry and read more about what it is we do as well as the heartbreaking story of our April Mama.
Originally published on For Always.